Habits

We live in a world where terrible habits trail the lives of many people. Many, I believe, want to change. And I am here for those who want to. It’s not that I have a magic word that you can say that you will stop the habit but I have something that can be just as profound. And it is information that makes you see the situation differently.

People develop habits whether good or bad according to the information defining their lives at a particular moment. But when the situation changes, the habit might tag along and be almost impossible to end. Let’s explore further. Take smoking as an example. Let’s say a girl was introduced into smoking by her friends and she took it up because she wanted to feel among. And now 10 years later, life has been favourable – she has a nice family, 2 little kids, a good working place and a responsible job, finances are great and she is well respected in the society. Such a picture is not consistent with smoking. As long as she no longer feels that pressure to feel among and she can’t relate to what she felt 10 years ago, smoking doesn’t appeals to her anymore.

Let’s see another example. A boy lost his parents at a tender age. Life suddenly became very difficult. The relatives who ought to be there for him treat him like he is worthless. Nobody really introduced him to smoking but he just bonded with it as a way to vent himself from whatever he is experiencing at the moment. 10 years from then, life hasn’t gotten much better. Maybe there is a little improvement but it’s nothing groundbreaking. Perhaps he has risen in the society due to the toughness he experienced in his youth. So, smoking for him is an integral part of his life which cannot be taken away from him. He can still relate to his pain 10 years ago and so smoking is still a “relevant” part of his life.

Habits are not broken, they are replaced. As long as what led to the habit still remained as a force to reckon with, getting rid of the habit is impossible. But then when there’s pressure to go on in the habit, something can be done. You can sway your body and soul in another direction. Find a replacement for the habit. Unless you find a replacement, you cannot stop the habit. A replacement is something that is not as bad but gives you a similar end-result as the bad habit. Note that bad habits are perverted good habits.

This may sound complex to you but it is very simple. For now, all I want to pass across to you is that habits are not broken (and therefore don’t try to break any bad habit), but habits are replaced with either good experiences of life or better habits with similar end-result.

Reason to be mentally sound: so that you can be addicted to the right things

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2 thoughts on “Habits

  1. Thank you for your post: you wrote on an engaging subject matter.

    I do agree with what you say in that changing someone’s circumstances or encouraging a less damaging activity with a similar outcome are helpful tools in breaking or making particular habits. I feel, however, that the examples in the post may be seen as a little simplistic. It does not, for example, take into account the physiological factors of nicotine addiction or an individual’s own point of views and willpower.

    The lady whose years have been favourable to her may still find pleasure in the very act of smoking; or she may simply have formed an unconscious association from smoking to something she encounters every day (for instance, having a cigarette as soon as she gets into her car every day). These are some factors that contribute to forming habits.

    The man whose life aren’t as advantageous may find some other means to extricate himself from the grips of habit. He may have decided that the harms of smoking outweighs its positive effects and managed to stop smoking without changing his life situation. I do not necessarily think that a habit has to be replaced for it to be conquered. There are many theories about human behaviour that suggest things that could help break habits without having to change them for something else (for example, operant conditioning or cognitive dissonance).

    Although I agree with the points that you’ve put forward, I believe that forming and breaking habits incorporate a lot more factors than positive life events or replacing a habit. You’ve made noteworthy points in this post, but I would suggest that there are ways that you can successfully break habits.

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    1. A different point of view. Well, I’m saying what I said based on some assumptions about the reader. I’m not talking to the whole world, I’m talking to someone who wants to move forward in life. The post is not an isolated one and a definite message is being passed across.

      The examples are just illustrations. I’m not into human behaviour stuffs, so I don’t know the ideas in the field. All I know is that my expression on this blog will restore a mentally challenged person who thinks and acts on the things I share.

      I’m honored by your comment though.

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